Deciding which 60/40 care plan is best for your family is a BIG decision.Your family will be living on this schedule for the foreseeable future, so you'll definitely want to make the right choice!
I have created the most robust classification of various 60/40custodyYou can find schedules on the Internet.I've included many of the popular options, but I've also created some timelines based on my knowledge ofmixed familiesand what helps them thrive.
To make it even easier for you to choose the right 60/40 home plan for you, I've included photos of what the plan might look like and ranked each plan based on 5 key factors to consider before taking the plunge.
Factors to Consider When Choosing a 60/40 Care Plan
Ratings range from 1 to 5, with 1 being the lowest (least ideal) and 5 being the best (most ideal).
plan consistency
It is important to you that youStepsonon the same days of the week? Or the same weeks every month? Families with children who participate in extracurricular activities that involve practice or games any day of the week should ensure that the 60/40 schedule they choose places consistency in the schedule a high priority.
Minimum Communication/Storage Offset
co-parent with acontroversialThe relationship will want a 60/40 schedule with lesscustody exchangeand minimal communication.
Times with fewer transfers or custody changes occurring at school, with one parent stopping before school and the other picking up after school, score higher on this factor.
even if youshared parentingthe relationship is notin conflict, you might still consider a time with fewer interactions.
routine promotional program
It can be difficult to help your stepchildren transition into your home and adjust to parenting rules and routines.his house.Custody plans, which are prioritized because they are routinely conducive, have longer periods of time with each parent.
Personally, I don't like custody plans with 1-2 day custody visits because it's hard to establish a solid routine each time.
60/40 time limit
For many co-parents, an important factor in choosing a 60/40 custody plan is "How long will I have to go without seeing my children?"Engagements with greater distances between at least one parent rank lower in this category.
quality of time spent together
I used this metric to help you decide if thetime qualityAny parent would do well with this schedule, or if it leaves something to be desired. If you spend all your time getting used to the rules andthe rules of your house, so it's not real quality time, which is what some co-parents care about most.
I also considered weekend versus weekday here. Schedules with less balance or lower quality time will perform worse in this factor.
2-3-4-5 Custody
Plan Consistency:5
Minimum exchange of communication/exploitation:2
Suitable for routine:4
time out:4
Quality of time spent together:5
Technically this is a 57/43 split, but it's a GREAT custody plan that allows for consistency and reliability, a balance between weekdays and weekends, and time to adjust to pre-transition routines.
The only big drawback is that this schedule requires Saturday mornings.custody exchangewhich is not idealconflicting co-parents.If you don't mind an exchange outside of school, implement this 60/40 residency plan!
2 working days + 1 long weekend on a 60/40 basis
Plan Consistency:4
Minimum exchange of communication/exploitation:4
Suitable for routine:4
time out:4
Quality of time spent together:4
If you're looking for a truer 60/40 stay plan, then this plan has the ratios you're looking for! I love that this schedule has the reliability of a 2 weekday window each week (Mon/Tues or Wed/Thurs) and once a month allows for that long weekend with the big 5 day stretch.
Hayminimal communication, especially when you can define your weekend in the guard contract (1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc.) and the pick-up/drop-off can be done at the school!
Long weekends in the 60/40 ratio
Plan Consistency:5
Minimum exchange of communication/exploitation:3
Suitable for routine:4
time out:4
Quality of time spent together:4
The reliability of this program is amazing, andYou never go more than 3 or 4 days without seeing your children.
I love this schedule, especially for co-parenting, where one parent works outside the home Monday through Friday; This gives them plenty of time on the weekends when dad isn't working.
For school-age children, this time means parents are more in touch with what's going on at school, homework, etc. Before agreeing to this 60/40 custody plan, make sure you are comfortable with this dynamic.
Advanced Standard Retention Plan
Plan Consistency:5
Minimum exchange of communication/exploitation:4
Suitable for routine:3
time out:2
Quality of time spent together:4
This is the standard extended visiting hours for Texas; You will see your child every Thursday and every second (or every 1st, 3rd and 5th) weekend from Friday to Sunday.I love the consistent point of contact during the week with the extra quality time on the weekends.
I don't like biweekly, you have a one-day visit. It can be VERY difficult to walk through a good forest and help a child adjust to the norms and culture of their home in one day.
custody plan 4-3
Plan Consistency:5
Minimum exchange of communication/exploitation:5
Suitable for routine:4
time out:4
Quality of time spent together:4
This is another 57/43 custody split and it can change which 3 days works best for the parent with slightly less custody. It's probably not ideal for parents with a little more custody to never spend a weekend with their children, so find the task for the day that best suits your needs!
School Year/Summer Split Schedule
Plan Consistency:5
Minimum exchange of communication/exploitation:5
Suitable for routine:5
time out:1
Quality of time spent together:5
While a school year/summer split (and extended school vacations) is more of a 70/30 supervision schedule, if you look at the calendar, parents are with thesummer visityou get the kid's time at school, so there are more hours on those days to bond and enjoy their company than there is on a typical school day, making it feel a lot more like a 60/40 custody plan.If both parents live further away or one parent is on summer vacation, this is a great option!
schedule 3-2
Plan Consistency:1
Minimum exchange of communication/exploitation:2
Suitable for routine:2
time out:5
Quality of time spent together:4
This is a true 60/40 split, but for older kids with activities and school it can seem like a long back and forth. 3 days are spent with the 60% custodial parent and the next 2 days are spent with the 40% custodial parent and then it starts all over again! However, there is very little (possibly no) correspondence with this schedule.If you're looking for a clear 60/40 custody split, this is the easiest way to ensure fairness.
If you only want 2-3 days away from your child and are open to a 50/50 split, consider acustody plan 2-2-3, a 50/50 residence plan that I highly recommend for younger children.
schedule 6-4
Plan Consistency:1
Minimum exchange of communication/exploitation:5
Suitable for routine:5
time out:2
Quality of time spent together:4
If you like the straight 3-2 split but want less frequent changes, then the 6-4 program is for you! We're still looking for less consistency in scheduling, so you probably don't know if you can respond to this birthday invite without checking the calendar first, but you'll certainly see your child every week for an extended period.
schedule 8-6
Plan Consistency:4
Minimum exchange of communication/exploitation:5
Suitable for routine:5
time out:2
Quality of time spent together:5
An 8-6 arrangement is really a 57/43 split, so I think it's close enough to a 60/40 supervision plan to include it! I love the consistency, reliability, and long stretches of quality time that this program provides. There is essentially one free week per week, but the 60% custodial parent always has the child one day a week and the other 6 rotate each week.
This is ideal for older children with more challenging extracurricular activities and schoolwork.
Need help downsizing?
As you can see, there are seemingly endless ways to create a 60/40 custody plan that works for you and your family together. There really is no "wrong answer" or "ideal schedule" because what works for one family may not work for another. Ultimately, the best time is the one that works best for YOU!
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